You’ve made it to the final lesson of our course. Congratulations!
In this final section, we look ahead at how you can build intuition into your life as an ongoing practice. I talk about the benefit of starting small, using everyday actions and low-stakes decisions as a proving ground for learning to better sense and trust your own inner knowing.
We also touch on the importance of finding at least one other person in your life to help support you on your journey of inner listening, to act as a sounding board and a counterbalance against the often skeptical internal and external voices we’re used to.
Finally, I end with some resources to support you going forward. Enjoy!
Like anything else, learning to trust our own intuition takes practice. We have to put the skill into action over time in order to really gain confidence that it works.
First, we have to slow down and pay attention.
Next, we need to begin to notice inner cues, feelings, or signs, and to validate our own sense that they are important or meaningful.
Over time, we have to take the leap and start acting on those “hits” more and more.
Once we’ve acted, we can then step back and take stock. How did that feel? How did things work out? What was the result?
Typically, we find that we feel really good after acting on our intuition. We tend to feel lighter and freer, with a greater sense of possibility, confidence, and optimism. And so, a positive feedback loop begins to form.
The loops goes like this. We act on intuition more, and we see that it works out well. Then we trust it more. Through trusting it more, we become more open to perceiving cues and are more likely to act on them next time. It’s through that happy cycle that we begin, over time, to operate more and more from a place of inner knowing, and we get to experience the peace and ease that comes with being connected to that source of inner support.
My number one recommendation is to start small and repeat. Everyday decisions are perfect for practicing the skills of inner listening. Any daily situation can be a moment to practice tapping in, even:
It’s not that these moments are so important, or that there’s always a “right” choice. Rather, these are convenient, low-stakes opportunities to stop and check in with yourself. What do you really want? What is your body saying? What is in your heart? What do you feel like doing? Is something pulling you one way or another? How can you tell?
Maybe it’s something as simple as getting a feeling in your body that you need to rest, or want a certain food, or feel a pull to do or not do a certain activity. You might notice an urge to take a different route home or to suddenly alter your plans. Even if you can’t always act on them, make it a habit to pay attention to these flashes of feeling, and be open to what they’re communicating.
The argument for starting small is that it’s easier to say yes to intuitive urges if they’re relatively unimportant. The bigger the decision, the more courage it takes to make a leap. But even with a small action based on intuition, you might notice some resistance coming up. You might hear the voice of “should” in your mind. You might notice some fear or doubt. That’s OK; that’s just part of the process of discernment, an important aspect of using intuition that I’ll teach in a future course.
Let’s use an example. Say one morning you decide you’ll go for a run later that afternoon. But then the afternoon comes, and because you are paying attention to your inner cues, you start to notice a feeling of “no” about the run. Whether in your body or in your mind’s eye, you now feel a pull to take a leisurely, reflective walk or a nap instead. Something in you is asking to slow down instead of pushing.
What do you do? As a student of intuition, first of all, you notice. You pay attention. You sit with the feeling for a little bit.
As you pay attention, you may notice a variety of reactions to this idea. There may be an inner voice arguing for you to stick with the run. You may hear the word “should.” You may also notice that desire for a nap or a slow walk in nature persists. It’s OK to take a little more time than usual to discern. You can ask for inward guidance, and see what comes up.
You can ask yourself, what is the “no” about? Is it avoidance? Am I stopping myself from something I really want to do? Or is my body telling me it needs a slower, more restful activity?
Next, you get to decide. Knowing there is no “right” answer—this is a low-stakes decision, remember?—you get to practice and watch. Let’s say you choose to take a nap instead, or go for a leisurely walk in the woods. Notice how it goes. How does it feel to say yes to this urge? What is the experience like? How do you feel afterward? What conclusions can you draw?
The same thing goes if you chose to stick with your original plan. How did that feel? What, if anything, did you learn? Would you do anything different next time? Why or why not?
This is just a tiny example of how you might play with your intuitive urges. You can do the same thing with all kinds of daily decisions, from where to park to what food to eat to who to call or when to be alone. As minor as these choices are, they can be an effective and entertaining laboratory for playing with inner listening, honing your skills, and making new discoveries about your own inner landscape.
TRY IT: Pick a day and see if you can use your intuition 3 times over the course of that day. That might simply involve slowing down and tuning in for a moment before making small choices like what to eat, what to do, and where to go. Afterward, see if anything about your choices or the experience of paying attention surprises you.
Over time, once you’ve gained confidence in your ability to read your own cues, you can move on to bigger decisions, bigger leaps. And in doing so, you will have opened a door to a different way of being—one where you are lighter, freer, more relaxed, and more connected to and more trusting of yourself.
In my experience, one of the most effective ways to gain trust in our intuitive knowing is to have friends who understand and can encourage us along the way. One of the biggest obstacles to trusting our inner knowing, as we talked about in Lesson 2, is society’s bias toward conformity and logic. It’s all too easy to find people who will try to argue us out of our inner knowing in the name of what’s “safe,” “rational,” or “logical.”
That’s why it’s so important to have people in our lives—even just one person—who can support us and validate us in our growing reliance on intuition. I have a few good friends I rely on to support me in listening to and trusting myself.
Here’s an example of how helpful it is to have an intuitive support system. One of my friends is working at breaking into the entertainment industry as a TV writer. She and I often talk about intuition together, and about the various hits we each pick up on as we navigate our personal and professional lives. Recently, she had interest in her TV pilot from two different production companies, one headed by a famous Hollywood name, the other one lesser-known. After meeting with both, she felt a strong “no” about the famous person’s company, and a clear pull to work with the smaller operation. Career-wise, this was not the “smart” or logical choice. Her agent and manager said she was crazy if she passed up the chance to work with the big name.
But when she and I talked it over, she explained how she couldn’t shake the feeling that she should go the other way, should say yes to the smaller company. I could hear how clear she was, and I supported her to trust that feeling. Even though it was tough, she made the controversial decision to go with the smaller company, and she immediately felt lighter and certain she’d made the right decision. Later, not surprisingly, some information came out about the famous person’s company that made her feel relieved she hadn’t gone that way, hadn’t listened to what the “experts” were telling her but instead had listened to herself.
Those moments—when what looks good on paper feels all wrong, or when what everyone is urging you to do just doesn’t feel right—are the times when we really need someone to validate our inner signals, to tell us we’re not crazy, and to encourage us to trust what we already know.
SOME RESOURCES FOR YOU
If you don’t have friends who can reliably support you in listening to yourself, or if just you’re looking for more support, there are outside resources that can help.
One of my favorites is the documentary film I mentioned in the first lesson, PGS: Intuition is your Personal Guidance System, which tells one man’s story of discovering the power of intuition in his life. After an inner voice saves him from a fatal car crash, the filmmaker, Bill Bennett, travels around the world to interview a whole host of spiritual teachers, channels, intuitives, and scientists about intuition and how it works. I absolutely love this movie, and highly recommend it!
You can play the trailer here, and then rent or buy the movie to stream online at the PGS The Movie website.
Or if you like, you can work with me! See the end of this page for ideas and links to my many offerings!
Learning to trust intuition takes practice. Experimenting with everyday situations and low-stakes decisions helps us learn more about our own ways of knowing, build up our confidence, and experience the positive feedback loop that comes with saying “yes” to intuitive cues. In a world that tends to value logic or practicality over gut feelings, it’s important to find someone who can be a sensitive sounding board, supporting us in listening to our inner wisdom and cheering us on as we take unexpected leaps.
Use your workbook pages or a separate notebook or journal to reflect on the following questions in writing:
Check out my website, theasullivan.com
Join my private Facebook group, with tips on intuition and messages from the Guides
Subscribe to my newsletter, The Intuitive Way
Book an intuitive reading with me and the Guides
Develop your skills further with one-on-one coaching
Find community and support via my Women’s Online Support Circle
Thanks again for joining me in this course, and I truly hope to connect with you again soon! And most of all, I wish you well on your journey of inner listening. I encourage you to dig deep to find your own knowing, trust yourself, and believe in the truth of Who You Really Are, which is a Divine and noble Being on a sacred journey of soul growth, service, and ever-increasing wisdom and peace.
Always listen to yourself first—because your soul knows the way!
Much LOVE to you,
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